Almost every kid will wet the bed at some stage. As a parent, the key to supporting your child through this sensitive time is to not make a big deal out of it. Always try to keep positive and never punish your child for wetting the bed. It is a total myth that children wet the bed because they are being bad or lazy. Bedwetting is completely outside of their conscious control, so no amount of punishment is going to help them stop bedwetting and will only damage their confidence and self-esteem. Equally, rewards need to be used wisely, if you decide to use them at all. Rewarding your child for staying dry at night will only set them up for disappointment if they fail to achieve something that they have no control over in the first place. In most cases, bedwetting is caused by a developmental delay that will naturally fix itself with the grace of time, so your consistent loving support will make for smooth sailing while this phase passes by.
Do Rewards Systems Help To Stop Bedwetting?
- Bladder reflex development – which means that your child’s bladder can signal to the brain to tell it to wake up when their bladder is full
- The ability to produce enough anti-diuretic hormone (ADH), which slows down urine production at night
- Their overall bladder capacity
Why Punishment Doesn’t Work
What can you do to encourage nighttime bladder control?
- Ensure that your child drinks water regularly throughout the day and limit sugary, carbonated, or caffeinated drinks after 4pm.
- Talk with your child about what they should do if they wake up in the night and need to go to the toilet – should they go to the toilet on their own or call out to you?
- Create a clear and well-lit path between their bed and the toilet. A small night light and your loving care is the best support for a child who is scared of the dark.
- Avoid waking or lifting your child throughout the night, as this will not give their bladder the opportunity to learn to store the amount of urine that their body produces.