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Hosting a Sleepover for Kids Who Wet the Bed

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When it comes to sleepovers, some kids who experience bedwetting are hesitant to spend the night at a friend's house or have someone spend the night at theirs. One way doctors recommend to help remedy this is to host a sleepover with other kids who wet the bed. This can prove to be a great way to make your child feel better about nighttime wetting and ease their anxiety about sleepovers going forward.

Child psychologist Dr. Susan Bartell says feeling that they are missing out on the fun their friends enjoy can be very difficult for children. "It can be very upsetting for kids because they feel a combination of sad, that they have to miss out because they're afraid they will wake up wet, angry with their body for not cooperating with them and that there is something wrong with them that is not wrong with other kids," Dr. Bartell says. "The unpredictability makes it difficult for them to figure out how to handle it and makes them feel they don't really have good control over their body. Often they blame it on themselves, rather than realizing that it's a matter of physical maturity."

One of the major problems with nighttime wetting is that it is rarely talked about. Children often feel as if they are the only ones doing it. Sleepovers and slumber parties may feel off-limits to the child who can't remain dry at night. Debbie, a mother of two from Portland, OR, says her son didn't attend many slumber parties after he reached a certain age.

"I think that this was always a concern of his," says Debbie. "When he was younger he didn't think about it, but when he got older he was afraid a bit of what others would think. I learned in [Cub and Boy] Scouts that there were other boys besides him that were [wearing absorbent products] due to problems [with] bedwetting."

Dr. Bartell stresses the importance of making kids feel like they're not alone when it comes to nighttime wetting. "This can be done by talking to kids about how others have this issue, by reading books and by talking about your own experiences with this if possible (it can be genetic) or an older sibling's experience," she says.

According to Dr. Bartell, a sleepover like this may boost independence and self-esteem.

"It teaches a child that bedwetting doesn't have to interfere with all the fun experiences of childhood. It also helps a child learn empathy for another child in the same position as he is."

Making Your Sleepover a Success

Dr. Bartell does have some cautions for parents, however. "For some kids, having a sleepover with a peer may be good for them because they don't have to hide the problem or feel embarrassed," she says. "However, if they wake up wet and the other kid is dry, they could still feel embarrassed. In addition, even though the friend has the same problem, if one is dry and one is wet, it could even provoke teasing from the friend because it's an opportunity to be on the other side."

Be proactive about situations such as this. "Talk to both kids beforehand about role playing what might happen if one wakes up dry and the other one wet," says Dr. Bartell. "Model and teach them supportive things to say to each other the night before, and talk to them together about how it feels to be sharing this experience. Remember to help them to feel confident that it will be a positive experience for both of them and then be there first thing in the morning to monitor their interactions and intervene supportively, if necessary."

It's also important to make sure you inform the parents of the other children what kind of slumber party it's going to be. They may have their child on some sort of bathroom schedule that you need to be aware of.

Other key tips to remember:

  • If the children involved are older, you might want to take the low-key approach, such as leaving the Goodnites® NightTime Underwear in an obvious spot in the bathroom.
  • If any of the children invited are acutely embarrassed by their nighttime wetting, have the other parent slip Goodnites® NightTime Underwear into the bottom of the child's sleeping bag.
  • Limit the children's caffeine intake and excitement before bedtime. Your last slumber party activity should be one that is calming, such as watching a movie or doing a quiet craft project while listening to relaxing music.
  • Remember to have everyone use the bathroom before lights-out.
Making It Fun!

Penny Warner is a child development educator and author of the book Slumber Parties (Meadowbrook Press, 2000). She believes the best way to make a slumber party a success is by making sure the children have a good time.

"When hosting a sleepover, it's a good idea to contact the parents of the guests and let them know what you have planned," says Warner. "This is also a good time to ask about bedwetting and offer to supply Goodnites® NightTime Underwear." The #1 Nighttime Underwear offers 40% more protection and odor protection for more discretion when accidents occur.

Warner provides the following tips to make any slumber party at your home a blast:

  • Have a treasure hunt. Hide fun objects around the house, write clues that lead to the hidden treasures and have the kids find everything. For added fun, make the objects ingredients to a special snack or parts to a craft. Or make it a scavenger hunt throughout the house or yard, with teams racing to find the objects.
  • Personalize your own T-shirts. Have the kids bring white T-shirts, or provide them with inexpensive ones. Then let them decorate and personalize the shirts with fabric paints, puffy paints and permanent markers. Add "bling" with stick-on jewels.
  • Camp out — or in! Set up tents outside if the weather is good. If not, set them up inside and let the kids have a "camp-in." Provide camp-style food such as hot dogs and s'mores. Tell ghost stories around a flashlight "campfire," and let the children sleep in the tents.
  • Have a karaoke sing-along. Rent, borrow or buy a karaoke machine, and let the kids sing their hearts out. Record the performances and play them back for the audience over popcorn. Vote for the "Funniest," "Most Off-Key," "Best Imitation" and so on.

Holding a slumber party for children who wet the bed at night takes tact, planning and communication.The goal is to create a comfortable atmosphere for kids like yours who have to worry about staying dry at night. But by thinking and planning ahead, you can make sure your child doesn't miss out on this important and enjoyable part of childhood!

These articles are not a substitute for medical advice, consult your doctor as needed.

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