Goodnites Guide: Talking to your child about a recent bedwetting regressionBy: Dr. Heather Wittenberg
Some kids wet the bed every night, while others may only wet the bed a few times a month. It can be confusing for a child when they are dry for several weeks in a row, then one morning wakes up wet.
As a child development expert, I have talked to many parents about their family’s experiences with bedwetting, and it looks a little bit different for everyone. Some kids wet the bed every night, while others may only wet the bed a few times a month. It’s something that varies and it’s usually not anything a parent or child can fix or control. As long as their pediatrician says they’re healthy and developing well, there’s no need to worry.
What can be confusing is when a child is dry at night for several weeks in a row, then one morning wakes up wet. It could be disappointing or upsetting for them since they may think it was something they had already outgrown.
While this inconsistency can be frustrating, this is a time when it’s particularly important for parents to reassure their children. Make sure they feel comforted and supported through using calm and positive language. Remind them that it’s simply part of their development, and eventually they’ll outgrow it permanently. That way, we can help them worry less – and enjoy childhood more.
Main Conversation Points:
- I see you woke up wet this morning. I want to let you know that having an accident like this is totally normal.
- Your body is still developing and like we’ve talked about – some kids just take longer to be dry at night.
- This might happen once in a while at night and that’s perfectly okay!
- As you get older, your body will eventually grow out of this.
- In the meantime, I think we should keep using your Goodnites under your pajamas. What do you think about that?
- Just remember how much we love and support you, and we can talk about this anytime you want.