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A Family Matter: Working through Bedwetting Together

Marsha of NC once experienced the embarrassment of nighttime wetting in childhood. She now helps Katie, her second daughter, work through the emotional issues related to her own situation.

"I had bad kidneys myself … as a kid," she says. "I understand what she's going through — I wet the bed until the third grade."

Katie has experienced kidney problems since she was 7 weeks old, when she had her first bout with an E. coli bacterial infection. At 3 years old, while dealing with a kidney reflux condition, she began to wet the bed.

Lean on Me

By sharing this common experience with her daughter, Marsha is able to offer Katie sympathy and support.

Marsha says her daughter is often distraught by her bedwetting (or nighttime wetting), but rather than get upset with Katie, she takes a calm, gentle approach when consoling her. "At first I remember the doctor saying to just deal with it at the present time," she says. "It was hard because I found that I was getting angry and upset when the bedwetting happened. This isn't the right way to go about it. Just remember it's not your fault and it's not your child's fault."

Marsha says the social stigma of nighttime wetting is the most difficult aspect of her daughter's struggles. She avoids sleepovers with friends because she's afraid they will discover her nighttime wetting. "It's a real issue for her because she wants to go to friends' houses for sleeping parties, but she's afraid someone will find out," Marsha says. "She hides it, which makes it an emotional roller coaster for her."

We'll Try Anything

To help her daughter cope with nighttime wetting, Marsha has spent the last three years researching the topic, consulting different doctors and trying various treatments.

Most doctors suggest that Katie's nighttime wetting will pass with age. "We've moved all over, and I have seen a lot of doctors who have all led us to the same scenario: Kids with [previous] kidney problems typically wet the bed," Marsha says. "Most doctors tell us that this may last until Katie is 10 or 11 years old, but in my research I have read about kids who still wet the bed into their teens. I am hoping that won't be the case with us."

Unfortunately for Katie, the traditional solutions for bedwetting have not been successful. "We've tried everything from avoiding caffeine drinks to cranberry herbal supplements," Marsha says. "We've even tried a psychological approach where we had her literally take the wet sheets off her bed and put them in the laundry. The bedwetting still happens — it's a medical condition for her that no doctor can explain."

Thank Goodness for GoodNites® Bedtime Pants

Despite the fruitless attempts at stopping Katie's nighttime wetting, Marsha remains positive that her daughter's condition will improve with time. She credits disposable underpants for temporary relief from costly mattress replacements and nightly sheet changes.

"We've replaced a whole bed in the past, so at least Katie has GoodNites® Bedtime Pants to help keep her dry," she says. "They save the bed and they save my daughter mentally. GoodNites® Bedtime Pants are a saving grace for us."

And now GoodNites® has redesigned their underpants, tailoring them specifically for boys and girls, offering customized protection where they need it most. The new underpants also have fun prints to help your child feel more comfortable and confident in his GoodNites® Bedtime Pants until he outgrows nighttime wetting.

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