Bedwetting Support for Children and Their Parents
When kids are toddlers, bedwetting (or nighttime wetting) is an expected part of growing up. However, post-toddler age, there are a large number of children who still wet the bed, and I'm guessing your child falls in this category.
School-age children often feel isolated and there's much less talk among parents when it comes to nighttime wetting as children grow older. But, just like when you parented a toddler, it's natural for you to seek out advice and guidance.
The single most helpful thing you can do for them is to be supportive.
Help and advice are available everywhere. Parenting books, friends, relatives and your parents will all have experiences to share. Below are a few points of advice to consider:
- Your child comes first. Since kids eventually outgrow their nighttime wetting, the single most helpful thing you can do for them is to be supportive. Help your daughter understand that it's not her fault. As she gets older, she may feel embarrassed about her nighttime wetting, so it's important to offer love and unconditional care.
- Respect your child's privacy. When the child is very young, it's natural to chat about her potty training or nighttime wetting with your friends and relatives. For your 11-year-old, however, it helps to show him that your discretion can be trusted. Refrain from bringing it up to a parent of one of his classmates or friends.
- Use the Internet as a resource (but don't trust everything you read). As your child gets older, it's less likely that your friends will have had this experience with their children. At the same time, it's more socially difficult and isolating for the child. The Internet has a very wide reach, and there are a lot of parents dealing with nighttime wetting, so it's a good way to connect with others who face the same issues. Anonymity is an advantage of the Internet, but know that nighttime wetting is nothing to be ashamed of. And, of course, I offer this advice with a caveat. It won't come as much of a surprise that information on the Internet can vary enormously in credibility. Make sure you're using resources with credible sources such as doctors and child development experts.
- Involve your child. It's important to involve your child in any decisions made regarding nighttime wetting. Ask if she'd be willing to try a new technique or product. If your child is older, I have found it helpful and empowering for him to seek out advice and bring it to you. Offer the choice of nighttime protection, be it absorbent underwear, like GoodNites® Bedtime Pants, or new GoodNites® Bed Mats. Send them to the GoodNites® website, and let them research and come back to you with ideas.