Parents Share Stories About How They Got Through Bedwetting
Bedwetting can be a difficult time for some parents, as they think they have a huge problem and are trying to figure out the best way to solve it. Not only do they want to help their children, but they also want a good night’s sleep….and a lot less laundry! But bedwetting doesn’t need to be a problem – it’s a common experience for many children and can be managed with the support of parents and a pediatrician.
There are many quick-fix “solutions” that parents may hear, including restricting liquids in the evening, rewards and even medication. Most parents try different things to see what works and what doesn’t. They also try to be encouraging.
Kathryn has a four-year-old who is dry for weeks on end and then suddenly he'll have a wet night. "At first we tried rewarding him when he woke up dry, but it was so hit or miss that it was hard to give a reward when we knew another wet night was likely coming," she says. Discussing it with him was important. "We wanted to avoid making him feel bad about it, and explained that it's not his fault. I think he understands that."
Patience is the key, she believes. "I think as time passes he's going to just outgrow it as he becomes more aware."
Mary, whose son wet the bed until age nine, communicated about the issue often with her child. "We always reassured him that it wasn't his fault and that it happens to a lot of kids. But he was very self-conscious about it. We kept an open, reassuring dialogue with him so he knew he didn't have to hide it from us and that we were never mad at him. We also helped him hide it from his friends and had an adult 'ally' for sleepovers that he knew he could go to in case of an accident."
Lena, a mother of five, has lots of experience with bedwetting. She knew she might have a problem since her husband was a bedwetter in his youth, and bedwetting tends to run in families.
Her oldest son wore a diaper at night almost until the end of first grade when he stopped wetting the bed. She kept her second child in a diaper “longer than she needed it because I felt bad for her older brother,” she says. Now her youngest, age 4, likes to go to bed in his big boy underwear. But since he still often wets his bed, she recently discovered GoodNites® Bedtime Pants and usually slips them on after he’s asleep. Those do the trick.
She also encouraged her husband to talk to her kids to explain that he was a bedwetter and eventually he outgrew it. "He likes to show the kids his bed and say, 'See, my bed is dry!' It makes the kids laugh and helps to avoid any tension or teasing among siblings, she says.
She knows her youngest will eventually have dry nights, and she can’t wait. “I know it is a process and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Of that, she says, “I can reassure parents, having been there, done that five times!”