Sibling Relationships: Talking About Nighttime Wetting
Last Updated: 02/08/21
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Siblings often realize that their brother or sister is wetting the bed. And talking about it early and often — so they can learn how to be kind, compassionate and understanding — is an important part of helping them develop good sibling relationships.
Raising a family with multiple children is not for the faint of heart! Each of the children in a family has a unique personality. And for parents, helping the kids get along is one of the biggest priorities.
When you throw bedwetting, also known as nighttime enuresis, into the sibling scenario, things can get really complicated. But having open communication with the kids about how to be supportive of each other can prevent a lot of sibling rivalry and demonstrate the importance of sibling relationships built on respect.
Siblings often realize that their brother or sister is wetting the bed even before you start the conversation. So, one key part of any sibling relationship checklist is to talk about bedwetting early and often, so they understand how important it is to be kind and compassionate to their sibling. Bring them into the conversation by asking them how they feel and encourage them to come to you if they have ideas about how they can help or if they have questions.
How to Talk to Siblings about Bedwetting
Every family dynamic is different, so parents should ultimately do what works best for them and their children as they attempt to be supportive about bedwetting. Try these conversation starters with brothers and sisters:
- You may or may not have noticed, but (child’s name) is sometimes wet at night and wears Goodnites® NightTime Underwear to bed. These are nighttime pants that help keep them dry and comfortable while they’re sleeping.
- (Child’s name) can use the potty and stay dry during the day, but sometimes they still wake up wet.
- Nighttime wetting isn’t their fault, our fault or anyone’s fault. It’s just how their body is changing and developing as they grow and mature. It’s something they’ll grow out of it when their body is ready.
- There’s no need to make this a big deal to (child’s name), but I want to make sure you know so we can help them feel comfortable and patient about it.
- (Add personal example such as): You know you’re going to stay overnight with grandma in a few days, and (child’s name) is going to bring their Goodnites® NightTime Underwear to wear under their pajamas. You may not even notice, but I want you to help them feel good by not teasing them in case you see.
- I know you and (child’s name) may joke around and tease each other, but this isn’t something to tease about. I know how much you care for each other, so I’d love if you could help me make this as easy as possible for them by being kind and helpful.
- Do you have any questions?
When Multiple Kids Wet the Bed
Having an open conversation is important, and if you or your child’s siblings experienced bedwetting when younger it may be comforting to share your experiences. Keep in mind that if you have more than one kid who wets the bed, what works for one might not work for the other — even if they’re twins or multiples. Like with any other part of life, each child is unique, and they’ll grow out of bedwetting in their own time and way.