My son is 13 years old and is still having a problem with bedwetting. He feels awful when he has an accident and will not tell me. I find out when I make his bed – or he makes his bed and sleeps in the mess. What do I do and how do I approach this without hurting his feelings?
Answer
Let your son know that when bedwetting persists to this age, often it is a genetic or physical problem. You or his father may have also been late bedwetters. The problem can be an immature bladder or poor muscle control. Or he may be a very deep sleeper.
You should talk to his pediatrician, as a physical exam may be in order. There are behavioral treatments that help train young people. Stopping and starting his stream while urinating can build muscle control. Drinking large quantities of liquids during the day and practicing holding his urine for increasing lengths of time can stretch his bladder and build muscle control.
Although these ideas can be helpful, it is important to get a professional assessment of the problem. You might also do some research on late bedwetting (enuresis) to find statistics of how common it is to help him with his embarrassment.
Kate Cohen-Posey
Therapist
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